Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone he loves so much
will still wish against all odds to have that love back again. But
sometimes a love lost is a love gone forever. No amount of hope can bring
back to life a relationship that just died a natural death. Set yourself
free, let your heart spread its wings and fly. Remember, it may rain for 40
days and 40 nights, but still it will not rain forever. One day the pouring
will stop and there will be plenty of branches where you can find rest.
One of these is where you will build your nest and start over again. It's
never too late. You may find love and lose it, but when love dies, you
never die with it. You cannot be a redeemer all your life. The best way to
weigh a relationship is through the test of fire. You cannot be sober with
your mistake forever. We all fall and make wrong decisions but our blunders
are not meant to bury us deep in misery but to teach us the valued lessons of life.
Loving is always a learningprocess. With love, we learn how to care and sacrifice.
We learn to shareand reach out. We learn to be unselfish and give more than we can.
Then,when everything doesn't end well, we learn how it feels like to fall and
get hurt.
Learning doesn't have to end there. After our fall, we strive to get back
on our feet and move on. This is where we learn that life doesn't end where
our heartaches begin. There's no future for a relationship of lies and
selfishness. It's true, there is life in love, but there can still be life
even after losing love if you leave the past behind and let your heart heal
and give you the chance to find yourself again.The success of a
relationship lies not only in the beauty of its beginning but in
its consistency. Make a choice not on impulse but a decision based on a
healthy balance of mind and heart. Let us always remember that happiness is
not a matter of destiny but a matter of choice. There comes a time in our
lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find
ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon
becomes a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts
and actions.
The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels
nothing more for us than friendship. We start our desperate attempt to get
noticed and be closer but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and
we end up being sorry for ourselves. You don't have to forget someone you
love, what you need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality
without being bitter or sorry for yourself. You would be better off giving
that dedication and love to someone more deserving.
Don't let your heart run your life, be sensible and let your mind speak for
itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. Always
remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is
coming tomorrow. If you lose love, it doesn't mean that you have failed in
love. Cry if you have to but make sure that tears wash away the hurt and
the bitterness that the past left you with. Let goof yesterday and love will find its
way back to you, and when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and
last a lifetime. A person on the rebound could easily fall for sweeping emotions
and be made to falsely believe that he finally stumbled upon the right person.
When what he just found is only someone to cover up for the love he lost.
A person who makes a promise with words and not with actions may never live up to fulfill them.
It's true that love can wait forever but it is crazy to stubbornly hope for
someone who doesn't even care or understand how you feel. Love makes us see
the things through rose-colored glasses. Most of the time, we fail to
recognize the danger sign that light up along our way. This feeling you
have nurtured for so long isn't healthy anymore. You must realize that you
have to let go now before it consumes you and your sanity. There is always
a time to think and stop and a time to be sensible and not to allow our
hearts to rule over our heads. You deserve to be happy not in the arms of
someone who keeps you waiting but in the arms of someone who will take you
now and love you forever. If loving a person who is attached to someone
else is a crime, then, maybe, many of us would have been jailed long before
we realize what its consequences could have been. Loving someone is never a
sin. It's what people do out of love that sometimes makes it all wrong. The
selfish desire to want that person is what makes it a sin. Don't think only
of your feelings for real love doesn't have a place for selfish people.
When there is love, there are always sacrifices. When we love someone, we
never easily give up on that person. Even if we get hurt badly we always
try to find a way to ease the pain and learn to understand and forgive.
Loving too much doesn't hurt. It is when we expect this love to be
reciprocated that we begin to seek approval and acceptance of the things we
have done and when we are taken for granted and rejected, we curse the very
same love that we once freely and happily offered. Don't waste your time
waiting for someone who never really cared about how you would have felt.
Open your heart again and give yourself the chance to find the man who
would make loving worth the pain and the sacrifice. Just like anything
else, our love grows weak and dies, if not taken care of. It can keep up
with pain only to a certain extent. Beyond that, it withers without any
hope of recovery and soon dies.
Relationships built on jealousy and selfishness is doomed from the very
beginning. The hardest part of losing love is letting go and moving on.
Most of us cry endlessly over things that could have been but never will
be. In many failed relationships,separation comes as the inevitable choice
but moving on always proves to be twice as difficult as letting go.
Sometimes, our choice to hold on is beyond thecontrol of circumstances.
Letting go is a decision that can never be dictated on us.
It is resolution we make to ourselves. Acceptance is the key to a new
beginning and time is the healer of all wounds. Even if the storm casts its
fearful shadow, there will always be light after our darkness and loneliest
moments. There is always a hope for those who believe. There is always a
chance for those who try.
Losing someone we love may not be a loss at all but a blessing because
someone even more deserving is yet to come. There is nothing wrong in
expressing our feelings to someone we love, but we must always be sensitive
to the signals that tell us when to rationalize and be sensible. There
comes a time in our lives when we would fall for someone who wouldn't be as
interested as we are because his Attention is focused on someone else.
There are many times when we love but don't get love in return. There are
times when the sign ahead says stop but we still stubbornly head on. We
would say our love is unconditional, but if it really is, then we should
never feel bad. Question is why do we get frustrated when love turns sour?
Because we still subconsciously seek acceptance and assurance from the
people we care about. Being in love can be the most wonderful thing we
could experience but if the feeling begins to consume our whole being, then
we have to stop and let our minds and not our hearts dictate our actions.
Only when we learn to accept our fate and understand the meaning of our
failures can we truly go on with life without having to look back and cry
over the things that could have been but will never be.
